Life Update

There is a distinct peace and liberation of being newly single. This period in my life calls for introspection as I uncover the new lessons I’ve gained that are true gems of illumination, guiding me towards a life that resonates.

I can appreciate the way this last stint with love inspired a shift in values. This allows me to set new goals for myself and assess my values as a young woman. My greatest revelation was that more than anything I crave inner peace, independence, and stability, and sometimes those don’t identically correlate with a relationship.

Additionally, I've realized that relationships require space, boundaries, compatible communication styles, and inner work to be healthy. Timing is also crucial, allowing both parties to fully learn one another before going full force into commitments. Having these discoveries is incredibly enriching as I feel I’m much wiser and mentally equipped to love myself better.

Change can feel frightening in a lot of aspects, but simultaneously I feel so rich in growth, God’s illumination and life’s lessons as they’re serving as guidance in the present moment. This experience has given me an avenue to reconstruct a more aligned path for myself and I am immensely grateful.

Though partnerships can be a challenge, I’ve known love to be a riveting, thrilling adventure for the soul: like the butterflies that swarm when your hands touch for the first time, and you melt at how perfectly your hands fit together. 

Or even more intimately, how your heart melts at the first signs of physical intimacy, like gentle shea butter foot rubs, or mesmerizing eye-contact, and a touch that makes your whole being tremble. Memories like these keep me from fully ruling out love and inspire me to be open to finding it again in the right timing. So, it's not all bad.

In a social climate that forcefully advocates for marriage as one’s main life goal, I'm excited to be patient with love, and further develop myself as an individual. Of course I didn’t anticipate finding myself single again, so now that I am, I want to be wise with it, savor it and be patient with love.